However, there was one particular scene that kinda peeved me though: The part where Jane kissed her long time crush cum boss and she made a comment like "when u kiss the one you're supposed to be with, it shouldn't just feel like that " or something like that.
That kinda rattled me abit, and made me wonder: Are u going to go around kissing the whole world to find that supposed "feeling"?Since when do you need to kiss a guy to know if you love him or not? What a way to decide whether the guy is the One -- based on how you feel during the kiss (coz it just doesn't "feel right" or because it "feels so right"?)
If you ask me, the wisdom in risking spending the rest of your life with someone based on how the kiss feels that moment is highly dubious. I mean, what a foundation to build a marriage on! If building a strong marriage only required you to "kiss and make up" each time you fight, i'm pretty sure we wouldn't have so many cases of divorce. And surely hollywood marriages, having such expert kissers, should have the longest lasting marriages, isn't it? But reality's not like that. Off the silver screen to reality.. i really don't think the large part of marriage is in kissing and all the physicality linked to it.
Perhaps my real peeve about that scene, is because it devalues the value of a kiss, not to mention the physical union in marriage. But ivy, kissing is so common, it's all over the silverscreen, tv screen even on the streets,.. where have u been??
Call me whatever you want.. idealist, alien, nutcase etc, but I genuinely believe that the moment right at the end of the wedding ceremony when the pastor/priest says "You may now kiss the bride", it literally means, " finally the groom- you've won the right to kiss this person and here in the witness of everyone and God because you've commited to serve and protect her in marriage." And the crowd cheers because they know how special that moment is, something that the couple has been waiting for (hopefully!) and not just another part in a wedding ceremony to go through. That's why it's at the end! we save the best, for last! :) Afterall, if "feeling" is what you're after, even if you don't get the "feeling" at the altar.. u have the rest of your life to practice it with your spouse rite? plenty of time to make it perfect :)
Don't get me wrong, i don't think the act of kissing someone before marriage is sin or anything like that, but the point i'm trying to make here, is valuing your kiss - i don't mean those friendly pecks on the cheek (or lips in some cultures!) that some give to friends/family to greet them.. but those emotionally stirring "feeling" kisses. I'm no expert, but i do believe kissing is special. that's why there's always this big hoo ha about the FIRST kiss, who it's with and how it was etc, because it is supposed to be special, isn't it? Also, while not kissing is not the only way to keep desire of lust at bay, i'm pretty sure it helps!
To date, i've only known of pp who've regretted not saving their kisses for their spouse (though there are of course some who don't regret it), but i've yet to meet anyone who regretted actually saving their kisses for their spouse, esp the ladies.
Yes, it's just a movie, it's hollywood.. but it really bugs me that all these little subliminal messages of what "true love" is and is not are being slipped into the minds of young people through shows like this, when it's really not true love that's being shown! Imitation love masqueraded as true love. What a terrible thing to be cheated of in our lives!
Yet, I am grateful, that no matter how we might have messed up in the past, how wonderful it is that we have a God of second chances, and it's never too late to exchange "imitation love" ideas and lifestyle for the real authentic one He has in store for us.
Having said that, 27 Dresses IS entertaining, great (and hilarious) bridesmaid costumes and some hilarious moments as well. minus that my mini-peeve part, it's still pretty ok movie to go watch!
ivy the idealist (?) signing off...
This post is very "you", Ivy! It's nice to read something so counter-cultural. Though a kiss, at least, is still a kiss. We've all heard the argument of cohabitation before, or sleeping with someone to see if the couple is 'sexually compatible'. So wrong. But tv and movies never portray the emotional and psychological cost of doing so.
ReplyDeleteSad to say, in real life, I know of people who break up after having slept with one another, and whose lives are forever changed. The wounds are deep, and the marks are avid. Sigh!
wow so passionate! i guess sometimes we really need to be bold in fighting for the best for us! maybe its why the minister says "You may now kiss the bride!" and not "you may not AGAIN kiss your bride", ive heard it from someone hehe
ReplyDeletehahaha.. hey babes! now that i read my post i sound like i'm really quite angry man.. haha.. that's what happens when i post stuff late night.. my emotions swing to the extreme.. though my opinion is really that lah. anyway, i think i'm going to edit the above abit and sound less angry! i love that...hehe it's not " you may now AGAIN kiss your bride"! how true!
ReplyDeleteivy! hahaha! it is so interesting to read a chick flick review from you! i will definitely watch it now.
ReplyDeleteIvy, you are not idealist! For me, you are ROMANTIC!!!! :)
ReplyDeletehaha thanks sis! that's a nice way of viewing it :)
ReplyDeletelove your reflection on "27 Dresses". When it comes to love, idealist is good!
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