Questions to ask before saying 'Yes'.. by Cherry Gunther

A post by my classmate in SWM for young women i thought worth the read!

Be blessed! :)

Questions to ask before you say YES to DATE someone

 

by Cherry Gunther

For all young women...

I was reading this book called "The Spirit Controlled Woman" by Beverly LaHaye and i thought this part would be good to share. It is so basic, yet sometimes people missed it.                 

The rest will be all her words.

"Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is"(Ephesians 5:17).

When you fall in love, it becomes difficult to always think straight and to be objective regarding the Lord's will for your life. The time to start seeking God's leading is before love begins; once you're in love, your heart can play tricks on you. Since you will probably fall in love with someone you have dated, ask God at the very start whom you should date. Following this plan will keep you on the right path and will help you to be objective as you choose your partner for life.

What kind of man should you consider marrying? Just looking for a tall, dark, and handsome man is not good enough. There will come a day when those features may change, and that handsome man may look more like a maturing beach ball. All young men with handsome features will not necessarily be good marriage partners. Your "dream man" will be one you must sit across the table from day after day. He will be there to see you at your best moments and at your worst. There will be days when he will not be the man of your dreams - - unless they are nightmares. But you will marry him "for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part." On those days his height, shade of complexion, and good looks will have nothing to do with whether he is a good husband day after day and year after year.

What is this man really like? Look beyond his outward appearance and consider the real inner person:  

Is he a man of good character and integrity?

What is his relationship to Jesus Christ?

Is he active in a good Bible-believing church?

What is his attitude about regular bible study?

Does he respect the standards and rules of your parents?

Is he kind and thoughtful to others?

How does he treat his mother?

Does he talk only about himself?

How much interest does he show in your needs and concerns?

Is he able to control his physical attraction toward you?

Does he consider your reputation and value your moral convictions and standards?

Does he treat you like a lady?

Is he ready to love you as much as he loves himself?

Now is the time to look him over carefully. Ask any and all of the questions you might have. It is far better to ask now than to wish you had in years to come.